The Definition of Love

Can any one person define LOVE? Well, there is selfish love, altruistic love, maternal love, platonic, sexual and the list goes on...
The point is to love with your heart and totally unselfishly.  Freedom is often associated with love - the reason for this, is because when we love someone, we should give them the freedom to do as they wish and not keep them on a "leash".  Only through freedom and unselfish love can a relationship last.
I know of someone, a woman who has been in love with a man for over 20 years, yet circumstances have not allowed for them to be together.  The point is that their love for each other has endured the test of time and it has only become deeper.  This love, is not a sexual type ... it is a more spiritual one.  The two respect the fact that it is impossible for them to be together but this has nothing whatsoever to do with how they feel for each other.

Then we have the selfish type of love - a love of self.  They want a person for what they can get out of them, whether it is feelings or material things.  It is a destructive type of love which should not even be called "love" - it is doomed not to last.

How do you love?  How have you been loved?  These are questions I would love to have you answer.

Be Who you Admire

Everyone at some point in their lives has an 'idol' - someone they admire for the way they dress, talk, perform, etc. We all need to have a point of reference. 

So, who is it that you admire? 
Why can't that person be YOU!   Why does it have to be someone else? 

Think of all the lovely qualities you would like to see in a person and begin adopting each and every one of them - it's that simple! 

Be who you'd admire!!! 

You'll come to me and ask, "but how do I go about it?"
- It's so easy! Believe me! 
You take it a step at a time - baby steps - and it's possible.
You will absolutely adore your new self.

HOW TO HANDLE THE LOSS OF A LOVED ONE

Losing anyone is hard - perhaps it is because we feel sorry for ourselves and there is no consoling oneself.  We feel empty and lost.  Our heart feels crushed.  Our own life loses its purpose sometimes.  How do we handle that?  This is a question I am often asked.
Well, there is not one single thing anyone can tell you that will brush away the pain and morever, bring that person back of course.  Just like a physical wound needs time to heal, so do emotional wounds.  We need to cry and have private time to think of our loss and mourn.  Time is the only healer.  However, since people always need some "medication" for all pain, my advice is to think of all the things our loved one did and enjoyed doing.  Call on them to join you and "do" them with you.  After the bleed - we need to cover that wound so that it heals.  That would be about the right time to go ahead and carry on with what they would have loved to have done. You will smile again and that gap will be filled with love - a solid substance which nothing at all can erase.   

COMMUNICATION

TALK TO ME!

Way back to the time of the Caveman, the need for communication was what differentiated mankind from the animal species. I have to say that the case nowadays is the reverse!  Animals are now better able to communicate their feelings than we are - it is often not a matter of words being spoken but of vibes being transmitted.

Sadly, people have gradually done away with direct face-to-face speech and have resolved to electronic means, thus making themselves more and more unable to truly open up and talk to someone; for fear of being rejected.  For instance, a man will ask a woman out, via a text message or email.  Of course it is easier refusing someone’s company when all you see is a keyboard and screen rather than … their eyes.  So, as you see, it works for both parties. 

In our day and age with the clock ticking faster than our schedules can handle, stress is becoming all the more prominent, leading to different health issues.  Many will find the social media an outlet and will post something to that effect; then it’s the stress of seeing how many likes and other emojies have been posted.  A response is all that matters - someone to show they care! 

Finding ways to relieve stress is very important – as important as life itself!   Some people resolve to running, drawing, and knitting amongst others.  What we all need is not to suppress our emotions but to let go!  We need to … TALK!!!  More importantly is that we need to … LISTEN!!!  How can we actually listen when we, ourselves have so much to say? 

Whatever the problem we are facing, we need to remember that a problem shared is a problem shed!!! Not that it will completely and magically disappear, but it will be easier to tackle seen from a different perspective because seeing anything from a different angle makes all the difference.  There are people out there who really do care enough to listen.  Isolating ourselves from others only tends to magnify the problem. 

When someone dares get in touch and needs to talk about an issue they may be having, please do not tell them not to worry.  It’s not as easy as that … it’s not a command one gives the brain…. It’s not an electronic device that can be programmed – it’s a person in distress.  So … if anything … LISTEN!!!